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“Do’s and Don’ts of Divorce” with Attorney Melissa Needle (Episode 10)
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      Firm Name: Needle | Cuda: DIvorse and Family Law
      Duration: 38:41
      Date: 2023-08-16

      Do's and Don't(s) of Connecticut Divorce

      Attorney Melissa Needle, Managing Partner of Needle | Cuda: Divorce and Family Law shares practical tips from her 30+ years of experience representing divorce clients in lower Fairfield County, CT. Learn how to be smart of of the gate and to avoid all those behaviors that can come back to haunt you in family court as your divorce unfolds. These Do's and Don't(s) will keep you out of trouble and "on the right track."    

      TIPS: The DO's of Connecticut DivorceThe Do's and Don't(s) of Connecticut Divorce

      1. Be honest with your lawyer!;
      2. Tell your attorney the whole story and be completely transparent;
      3. It is okay to acknowledge past bad behaviors as it comes across as being "honest";
      4. Make/keep copies of all your personal financial records, statements and files (going back 5 years) if possible;
      5. Change your passwords and protect your phone, personal computer, iPad, etc. - Do not discount the idea that spy software could have been installed on your computer by your spouse that tracks your key strokes -- Be very careful!
      6. Be weary of location/movement tracking and iTags;
      7. Be weary of your browser history ... delete your history and cookies;
      8. (When child custody is at issue) Keep a detailed journal to document the contemporaneous activity in your household as it unfolds, especially as it relates to your kids;
      9. Be weary of the fact that your spouse could be recording your verbal communications;
      10. Be patient, divorce can be a slow, frustrating process . It just takes time to get to the finish line.

      TIPS: The Don't(s) of Connecticut Divorce:

      1. Do not involve the children in the divorce proceeding by playing the blame game or bad-mouthing your spouse -- as it will reflect poorly on you and how your ability to parent is perceived;
      2. Do not leave divorce related paperwork where your kids can find it;
      3. Do not argue or engage with your spouse in front of the kids -- try not let emotion get the best of you! - Do not leave your personal journal where your spouse can access it;
      4. Do not use emotional language in electronic communication....instead be matter of fact and transactional.


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      Divorce Doesn't Suck Podcast Series

      Daniel Herrold, Founder of International Dating Club and Co-Founder of Divorce over 40; Wendy Lowy Sloane, Executive Producer and Host of the What’s Up with Wendy celebrity radio show and podcast, announce their collaboration on a new podcast, Divorce Doesn’t Suck. This new podcast will explore every aspect of divorce, including kids, finances, dating, sex, starting over, and more. Daniel and Wendy will share their experiences and fresh perspectives on their divorces, and how they were able to move forward and focus on the future. Guests, including Attorney Melissa Needle,  will include experts in finance, law, psychology, dating, relationships, health and wellness, and more.  Divorce Doesn’t Suck will appeal to people at every stage of their divorce journey, from deciding if divorce is the right decision to post-divorce relationships and re-marrying.


      If you have decided to dissolve your marriage, or if your spouse has served you with divorce papers, you are probably wondering, “What happens now?” The Westport divorce attorneys at Needle | Cuda understand your concerns and want to set your mind at ease. By working closely with you, we can develop a plan tailored for you that is effective in resolving points of conflict on favorable terms. Whether your circumstances necessitate a non-adversarial divorce to put your marriage behind you, a meticulous analysis of your assets to protect your property rights or aggressive litigation to preserve your parental rights, our experienced and knowledgeable Connecticut divorce attorneys work with you to pursue these goals.


      The firm's practice areas include: Divorce, alimony, child custody, child support, restraining orders, same-sex marriage, post judgment modification, relocation, prenuptial agreements, postnuptial agreements, enforcement and contempt actions, divorce appeals.


      Needle | Cuda is a divorce and family law firm focused high-net-worth divorce, contested custody, and complex property division. Our service areas includes: Greenwich, Belle Haven, Byrum, Cos Cob, Riverside, Round Hill, Stanwich, Mianus, Glenville, Old Greenwich, Westport, Compo Beach, Greens Farms, Saugatuck, Saugatuck Island, Saugatuck Shores, Coleytown, Darien, Noroton Heights, Tokeneke, New Canaan, Pinney's Corners, Selleck's Corners, Talmadge Hill, Ponus Ridge, Stamford, Shippan, The Cove, North Stamford, Newfield, Westover, Turn of River, Waterside, Norwalk, Cranberry, South Norwalk, Wilson Point, Harbor Shores, Harbor View, Rowayton, Ridgefield, Wilton, Cannondale, North Wilton, Bald Hill, Belden Hill, South Wilton, Gilbert Corners, Lambert Corners, Weston, Easton, Fairfield, Sturges, Greenfield Hill, Fairfield Beach, Blackrock, Sasco Hill, Fairfield Woods, Milford, Stratford, Trumbull, Fairfield County, Lower Fairfield County, Connecticut. Connecticut Office: Westport, CT 06880 (203) 557-9500 In August 2023, the Needle | Cuda also opened a New York Divorce and Family Law practice serving Westchester, Putnam, Westchester Counties and New York City (including New York City). New York Office: Brewster, NY. 10509 (203) 845-8600
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